I Help Successful Men Deal With Emotions

The societal construct is that men should be 'tough' and there is good reason to it. Any successful, advancing family, society, nation or even an organisation is built on the shoulders of strong men and women. Such strong people cannot express their emotional side simply because it is seen as a form of weakness. Higher you scale your heights of success and leadership, more you need to be cautious of letting your emotions leak out. A single sign of weakness and your subordinates and followers begin to lose faith in your leadership. We are never taught or trained to even acknowledge our own emotions, let alone address them. We keep going up and up, the world thinks of us to be happy and joyful, and yet in our heart of hearts we know! We know we are empty. We drown ourselves in parties, meetings, travel, work and worse substance abuse - only to run away from emotions. What cost does it exact? Time? relationships? Life? Happiness? Add to that a myriad of other aspects that cannot be 'priced'. Then I also invite you to think of cost in terms of hard money. Unaddressed emotions make you lose your productivity, career, customers, friends, relationships.

I know it first hand. I know my emotions cost me one of the most noble and prestigious career as an Air Force officer. Having led a life of honour and sacrifice spanning over two decades, when emotional doldrums hit me, it wasn't easy to navigate those times. Flying under mortar shells and going in and out of conflict zones was a whole lot easier.

I did not have any one I could confide with what I was going through. On the outside, I was a confident man (as much I could project that), on the inside - nothing. Anyone of you have been there? I realised even though I had friends and close confidantes, I could not share the shitstorm I was dealing with them. Being an introvert did not help either.

Just nod or blink your eyes if you have been there.

Unfortunately, I could not find any help outside too. A few psychotherapists that I came across were sufficiently un-professional at least to my standards.

It took an arduous journey of re-discovering self over next three years. I went through philosophies of the world, psychology lessons and approaches, neuroscience of emotions, spiritual explorations and what not, turned myself into a lab-rat and the scientist. I knew there were other people going through tough times. They don't need to lose friends, career, relationships... life. I knew I could reach out and help. To build up further on my life experiences, I got formally trained as a Life Coach too. I have trained with some of the world's best coaches to really hone my skills in guiding people to greatness.

In my journey, I have come to know of so many men carrying the weight of emotions without even knowing it. Over the years, they have become very good at shoving the emotions under the carpet. And even though it is stinking, they aren't looking there. They are settled in career and family. The life looks perfect - from the outside. I have seen almost every one of them breaking down during conversations, an important milestone in their life. In that moment the clarity comes in and the world becomes beautiful in its complete glory. People around them are amazed to notice the change that begins to shine through. It is that one conversation that makes you feel heard and understood without any judgements or biases that has the power to transform your life.

Let me help you deal with your emotions and take you to greatness. I do that best and you deserve it!